Should you get back together with your ex, or is this just familiarity pulling you back in? Before you say yes, there are a few questions worth slowing down and asking.

This episode is for anyone who’s considering getting back together with an ex and wants to do it differently this time.

As someone who did get back together with her ex and rebuilt a relationship rooted in repair, accountability, and understanding that a safe nervous system is a non-negotiable, I share the three core questions that helped me discern whether reconnecting was actually aligned, or just old patterns resurfacing.

This isn’t about convincing yourself to try again. It’s about slowing down, listening to your body, and making space for clarity instead of urgency.

What you’ll learn…

* The first question to ask before considering getting back together with an ex

* How to tell if your ex has actually changed or is just saying the right things

* Why old issues will come back (and how to plan for that honestly)

* What it means to rebuild trust through repair instead of avoidance

* How to stop over-functioning and let the other person meet you

This episode is for you if…

* You’re thinking about getting back together with an ex

* You’re afraid of repeating the same patterns

* You want clarity without rushing a decision

* You tend to over-function or take responsibility for both people

* You want a relationship rooted in repair, not chemistry alone

My invitation to you…

Take a moment to reflect on what this relationship is here to teach and show you. Write in the comments:

“This relationship is here to teach me…” and notice what comes through.

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